And what country can preserve its liberties if their rulers are not warned from time to time that their people preserve the spirit of resistance? Let them take arms. The remedy is to set them right as to facts, pardon and pacify them. What signify a few lives lost in a century or two? The tree of liberty must be refreshed from time to time with the blood of patriots and tyrants.
I'm 78 years old. My mom passed away at 91 in 2015. I would seriously consider donating the pinky finder of my left hand to have her here for an hour to let me hug her and say how much I love her.
I held my 90 yr old mothers hand that way this evening when my bother and his wife brought them over for dinner. Pops is going on 94. God bless family. They will,be gone soon enough.
The last words of my pa were to me. We were shaking hands, eyes locked on one another. He said, (my name), I love you. Then he passed over.
For ten years following I dropped everything to care for mother. It was meant to be only a couple of years. The first year was rough. Her inconsolable crying. It was bittersweet for her; she was glad he no longer suffered. His body had failed him. He was rotting from inside out. Mother had suffered too. Mother felt guilty for being glad he was gone. No more pain.
Her entire income stopped because of county, state, federal government snafus one after another. Even ma's investments got locked up for a time. Various fed agencies wanted original death certificates. County had some cockamammy reason for not issuing multiple death certificates. Then ma would call the feds saying it's been months and still you hold my income. Feds would respond they need a cert. Ma would say she'd mailed it months ago. Feds would say they hadn't received it. And so on.
And that was just one of multiple agencies. Each required mother to show in person at the county for a new original. My savings dribbled away. Truly thank God I had what was needed.
A few years later I told mother that a company was flying me out for an interview. I was excited for this new job. I cancelled the interview after seeing the crestfallen look on mother's face.
I'll stop here. I'll say that it was my extreme honor to be there. The only reason I put this here is to press upon anyone with a mother or father, cherish them. Even if there is enmity between you now, it wasn't always there. You are still their child, they still are your parents. You owe them and you owe yourself to call them, visit them, hold them, love them and show it.
I worked in an assisted living job and can state that son's and daughters really dump their parents in these places and visit once a year at Christmas. Same for nursing homes. The people in these places are extremely lonely, My point is this if you have to put a parent or sibling in one of these places do not walk away and think they will be taken care of, of course they will but not as they should be. Can give credit to places that do care and it shows in the residents that are there.
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ReplyDeleteWhen you're having fun. They look happy.
ReplyDeleteSobering.
ReplyDeleteI'm 72 years old, looking at the mom in the pictures leaves me feeling a little sad.. time does march on...
ReplyDeleteI'm 74, wishing my Mom could have lived that long.
DeleteNow co-caregiver, with wife, of Mom in law, 90.
Robert said something about Honor and doing the hard thing.
DeleteRespect Tree Mike. All mothers should be so lucky.
I'm 78 years old. My mom passed away at 91 in 2015. I would seriously consider donating the pinky finder of my left hand to have her here for an hour to let me hug her and say how much I love her.
DeleteRobert Heinlein is the Robert I mentioned, no edit button.
DeleteGood Son!
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DeleteBeautiful photo.
ReplyDeleteThats so sweet!
ReplyDeleteMom is still beautiful.
ReplyDeleteI held my 90 yr old mothers hand that way this evening when my bother and his wife brought them over for dinner. Pops is going on 94. God bless family. They will,be gone soon enough.
ReplyDeleteYou are so fortunate/blessed.
DeleteThe last words of my pa were to me. We were shaking hands, eyes locked on one another. He said, (my name), I love you.
ReplyDeleteThen he passed over.
For ten years following I dropped everything to care for mother. It was meant to be only a couple of years. The first year was rough. Her inconsolable crying. It was bittersweet for her; she was glad he no longer suffered. His body had failed him. He was rotting from inside out. Mother had suffered too. Mother felt guilty for being glad he was gone. No more pain.
Her entire income stopped because of county, state, federal government snafus one after another. Even ma's investments got locked up for a time. Various fed agencies wanted original death certificates. County had some cockamammy reason for not issuing multiple death certificates. Then ma would call the feds saying it's been months and still you hold my income. Feds would respond they need a cert. Ma would say she'd mailed it months ago. Feds would say they hadn't received it. And so on.
And that was just one of multiple agencies. Each required mother to show in person at the county for a new original.
My savings dribbled away. Truly thank God I had what was needed.
A few years later I told mother that a company was flying me out for an interview. I was excited for this new job. I cancelled the interview after seeing the crestfallen look on mother's face.
I'll stop here. I'll say that it was my extreme honor to be there. The only reason I put this here is to press upon anyone with a mother or father, cherish them. Even if there is enmity between you now, it wasn't always there. You are still their child, they still are your parents. You owe them and you owe yourself to call them, visit them, hold them, love them and show it.
I am 67, my son is 38 and he still holds my hand at times when out and about, treasure it every time, yes time marches on and on.
ReplyDeleteI worked in an assisted living job and can state that son's and daughters really dump their parents in these places and visit once a year at Christmas. Same for nursing homes. The people in these places are extremely lonely, My point is this if you have to put a parent or sibling in one of these places do not walk away and think they will be taken care of, of course they will but not as they should be. Can give credit to places that do care and it shows in the residents that are there.
ReplyDeleteThis thread made it real cloudy, with drips.
ReplyDeleteWell done, but well done AI.
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